10,000 Ways to Dominate Someone
October 3, 2019
"What exactly are you talking about Mistress?
How the hell do you think there are that many ways to dominate someone?
Isn't it just tying someone up and fucking them in their ass til you cum?"
Everyone...literally everyone has their own definition of domination and submission. I have been approached by numerous people thinking all a Domme must do to be a Domme is tie them
up or not tie them up or blindfold them or not blindfold them and then fuck their ass with my own cock until I reach orgasm. While this is fun at times and has its pluses and minuses it is far far away from the galaxy I reside in. So much more goes into any and every encounter with a sub.
Perhaps my perception of the definition of domination manifests with a look I give to my submissive. This look is me checking for nonverbal cues that they need to submit to me. It proceeds to a verbal command. This command is usually to remove their clothes and kneel with their hands palms facing up resting on their knees. Then maybe a touch of rope to skin. Maybe a touch of leather to skin. Maybe a touch of lace or latex. I like to blindfold my subs! I enjoy the expression of the mouth upon experiencing pain and pleasure. I enjoy giving out tasks to be completed and greatly enjoy when those tasks are not followed to the letter! This provides me with a jumping board into a glorious swimming pool of pain. I love pain above pleasure in almost every aspect.
Pain is what saves us. Pain is what makes everything all better. Pain allows the pleasure to be felt many times greater. Every time I dominate someone I want to provide a hearty amount of pain. The art of pain is a topic for another blog but it is artful endeavor and one that should be thoroughly explored by everyone in my opinion. I would much rather beat someone than fuck them if I had to choose between one. Some people have not realized the magic of pain mixed with their kink yet. I aim to change this the world over!
Some people devote their careers to building devices that can be used to restrain someone else. Spanking benches, crosses, platforms with interchangeable interlocking rivets to be able to be adjusted to a desired height and angle. Cane makers, crop makers, whip makers, leather cuff makers all dominate someone differently. My advice is keep an open mind when you say you want to be dominated. Try new avenues to reach your end goal. You might surprise yourself and open up a new door to a new kinky room in your mind you never knew existed.
